In your situation you may just have to concentrate on one positive moment at a time so your financial needs get met.
That's kind of what I'm weighing. Getting minimal support but with freedom vs continuing to appease him for financial reasons.
Originally Posted by scout12
The most important lesson I learned from my divorce process was to never validate abuse. However, when negotiating a settlement, validation can be a useful tactic to get what you want, need, or are entitled to get. You are in a tough spot and playing nice may be to your advantage. Be careful about validating these accusations in writing, though - he may be setting you up to fail if it goes to court.
Does he have an L? If not, you could put a bit of fear into him with a pleasant but firm email.
My H is a L himself. So I've been a L's wife long enough to know not to put things I don't want other people to know in writing. lol! So far I have just ignored his accusations and have not addressed them in the emails. I try to keep it very business like. So yeah, seek legal advice in our home state would not work in my current situation because we are not in the U.S. right now. My only bargaining chip is that he wants to divorce me, and he can't do it without my consent here in this country. Strangely I am hoping that he wants to divorce me bad enough to agree to my requests for child support.
