I am really tired of these back and forth emails with my H. In every email he’s sent me, he’s included some kind of accusations of my failing in one thing or another which are not true. Ex: I told the kids we’re divorcing! I was supposed to take care of my in-laws long term care account! I didn’t give him our account login info!
Other than all that, he’s also stated that he does not want to give me the child support that I’m entitled to under state law (again we are overseas), and claimed that he wouldn’t know how I’d be using that fund and I could be using it for myself than for the children. (Seriously !?!)
I would like to just ignore him, but I do have the disadvantage of actually needing his financial help in the long run. If I take him to court here, under the foreign laws here I’d be getting only 1/3 of what I’d be entitled to in the U.S.
So do I keep playing this game with him??
I’m thinking about setting my boundary in my next email: “if you keep making false accusations, I will no longer engage in this conversation about divorce.” He can’t actually divorce me here if I’ve done nothing wrong. I just still have to ask him for money. Ugh. I find these back and forth emails are not really moving us ahead in divorce negotiations because he’s always putting false claims in there to justify his arguments.
I want to be done. But the logistics are tying my hands.
