Oh, I forgot to say ADHD man has LOADS of interests, has a degree from a top notch uni (all 3 men I slept with did, maybe I am a uni snob?!) and has a great sense of humour but also texts me mundane stuff and likes when I text mundane stuff back. Having someone to share tiny moments and silly things with is important to me, so I really like that.
Anyway, back to my final installment. H has taken the kids away and I told him I would come and stay at our other house for a few days. I'm here now and it is all very odd. I think he is so messed up. The sink has 6 dirty wine glasses in it, there are 4 empty wine bottles nearby and the house is quite dirty and unkempt. He bought this flashy chest of drawers for the bedroom as there is not much clothes storage, but the drawers are so heavy they can't go upstairs! So the place looks terribly cluttered. H never throws things out and is a shopaholic who loves clothes so I just cannot see him staying here especially as there is no garden for his hyperactive dog (plus he used to get bored here when we visited before). I want to have the option to buy him out, even if I have to borrow money from my parents. I love this place so much. The weird stuff: a music exam certificate of ds1's from about 5 years ago displayed on the bookshelf, and a patchwork quilt with MUM on it and some photos of babies (are these his secret love children??!!) Quite mystifying. I went through all the drawers everywhere and found a bank account he is opening (might be the separate accounts he said we should have, though he doesn't know I know about the secret one...) And I took photos of anything which looked like it might be useful like his leaving work contract and stuff in a notebook (there was one entry in his awful handwriting suggesting he was getting a bigger payout, so I will be requesting proper evidence...). No evidence of anything to do with divorce though that could all be via email or in a spreadsheet on his computer at this stage I suppose. I won't hack into his laptop, if he leaves paperwork lying about when he knows I'm visiting that is fair game but I won't do anything unethical.
I feel a bit uncomfortable here, and also angry that he unilaterally moved into somewhere he knows I care about a lot. Will try to have fun here and forget about him though!! I really feel sorry for him, he is so messed up. I hope the kids coped with the long drive with him in his new convertible (lol, what a cliche, buying a convertible when you are having a MLC!!)
