I second what DnJ says Ginger. Let D12’s feelings even out a bit. I would also have her talk to her dad with your support. At this age, her relationship with her dad is something that should be negotiated between them and then he can work out the logistics with you.
I get the anger. I really do. Being the better person all of the time is hard...and exhausting...but it’s the right thing to do...for your D12 and for you as well. Get a good night’s sleep and do something kind for yourself. Things will seem a bit better in the morning. (((HUGS)))
