Drh, the problem is not that you should try to burst her bubble. Notice what I said: "the key was that I was doing things to show her I was not going to cater to her wants and wishes, that I was ok with moving on without her, and that I was going to do what I thought was best and wanted. Regardless of how she felt about it!! "
I didn't do things to burst her bubble, but my actions to move on myself had that effect.
For instance, you say she wants mediation and an uncontested divorce. But what do you want? Maybe you feel that participating in mediation is being a conspirator in the dissolution of the marriage, and you can't abide that. Then refuse to participate in mediation. Make her hire a lawyer, file for D, and go to court to settle things. Or maybe you go hire a lawyer and file yourself.
My wife was convinced that we could do an online cheap quickie D. My talking to a lawyer shattered that delusion. Lying cheaters shouldn't get to dictate the terms of things. So decide how YOU want to proceed and then do so, regardless of how she feels about it.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
