I could match her salary in 1-3 years or so, but that it is simply not very likely with my next job.
There are more ways than money to contribute, in the meantime. (:
Originally Posted by ATLGuy
The therapist said she would meet with my wife solo on the next meeting, but I have reservations. I feel like therapy is counterproductive until BOTH are committed. I want my wife to
That's your controlling side. Your wife doesn't have to do what you want her to do. Let her do as she pleases. If your wife is looking for an excuse to separate, she'll find it somewhere else anyway.
Now, it could be reasonable to drop going to therapy with her, until she's committed to the marriage.
Originally Posted by ATLGuy
Trust me, this is night and day for me.
Been there, done that. The phase lasted six months, lol. She's known you for years, so she won't believe changes you make to try to win her over. Try to ensure any 180s are your fair share of household contributions or for your own enjoyment, something you'll keep up long term, so you won't grow to resent them or fish for praise. These could be great 180s, but check your motives.
