I'm in total agreement, I should add, that I could match her salary in 1-3 years or so, but that it is simply not very likely with my next job. It's hard to do much when you're tired, or depressed, and when you're clinically both, it's damn near impossible. I have both under control now, so now it's off to the races.
The therapist said she would meet with my wife solo on the next meeting, but I have reservations. I feel like therapy is counterproductive until BOTH are committed. I want my wife to figure out when she's ready to be committed again on her own terms. I don't want the therapist to spook my wife away from any progress that's been made, but I'm probably over thinking that.
That said, I've lost 15 lbs so far the past few weeks, but have a ways to go in that department, about 80lbs away from ideal weight. I have so far the last month, cleaned up the house, turned a junk room into a real guest bedroom, cleaned up the attic storage, cleaned up the dining room for a home office, pressure washed the drive way/deck, went through son's toys for donating, painted the kitchen, and painted the hall way. Trust me, this is night and day for me.
I got my student loans in deferment due to C19 unemployment, I called my state senator and asked why I haven't gotten my C19 money yet (long story, but he's on my side). Mostly I make sure I'm always flexible, and available. So while I'm not making money yet, I'll soon be bringing in some, and am doing my best to trim spending.
"I will not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. I will face my fear. I will let it pass over me. When the fear has gone, there shall be nothing. Only I will remain."
