Good for you seeking legal counsel. It is wise to learn your rights. Learn the likely outcome and the best and worse case scenarios as well. None of this means you have to take action, all you are doing is gathering information. Oh, and do not tell H about this.
My advice regarding divorce - Let H do the heavy lifting. Unless you need financial protection or security, do not push for a D. Let H own that. You just need to be ready, for if he does go for D, or changes and your financial situation worsens.
Originally Posted by PLC
Does anyone have any help to get through the crippling fear?
Seek how to rationalize, to uncouple the irrational fear response from the possible future event. Fear is always about something that hasn’t yet, or may not ever, happen. Fear is about the future. One doesn’t fear the past or present. The first step is recognizing your fear, and that requires knowing where, and when, to look for it.
Stay strong
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Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
I believe so.