Boundaries keep your self-worth intact allowing for choices to be made by each individual within the relationship.
Ultimatums are about forcing things to be your way or the highway while trying to seek power over someone.
So in this case it's how you present it.
I can't be married to someone without sex and intimacy.
You need to have sex and intimacy with me or I'm divorcing you.
Got it. Thanks for the clarification.
Woke up this morning to a text from her:
"I know this is random but im listening to the queer as folk soundtrack, there is one giant playlist for it on Spotify, and I think you would really like a lot of the songs"
Nice of her to think of me and reach out. Means nothing. Didn't respond, went out to go play tennis instead.
