Yes - FS is yoga fit. But honestly, I didn't do it for the arms/back (which is a great by product). Yoga works for me. I was after strength, balance, flexibility and acceptance. Obvs. I am still working on that last one
Had my first proper appointment. She was surprised I did not want to discuss it first with him but accepted the position. There are three independent (but interconnected) aspects and filing is only the first aspect. He will rage (why didn't you discuss it, you are wasting money) but as long as I don't tie myself in knots defending and simply say "OK" and walk away, I should be OK. All he has to do is agree to the D (it is no fault and he has been gone a long time so I can't see any grounds for not agreeing). The other aspects, finance and childcare will be more difficult. This will actually require us to negotiate and defend our positions. It will be tough. I doubt all the yoga in the world will help me get through that without getting emotional.
He brought the girls around last night (as per his usual routine). I had some people round doing some work on the garden. I had mentioned it to him about two weeks ago and his at the time, his response was "As we're not selling the house I'm not paying", so figured, if he wasn't paying for it, then I didn't need to discuss it any further. He hid his surprise, but he was not in a good mood. I've also had people around to do other bits and pieces around the house (again, at my own cost). He has noticed but not said anything but think that the two men outside working 'in his' garden really set him into a foul mood. Add to that I was heading out for the evening when he arrived.
So, he uninvited me from our daughters birthday dinner ("I don't think it's appropriate that we do it together"). When I questioned him on why he said because I decided to buy her presents without consulting him first. I said "ok, well why don't we ask D13 what she would like" and asked her when she came into the room. D13 shrugged and said "I don't care" to which I replied, "well, it's up to daddy then.". Not much he could say to that so I am reinvited to her dinner.
He then told me
- He is getting 'his valuers' around to value the house (that he does not want to sell). My response "Ok - let me know when and Ill make sure I am home" and suggested he get 2 or 3 valuations and we can use an average. - We need to itemise (he said itenarary but meant itemised) everything in the house which is worth over a �100 for the mediation process. I said "I don't think that's necessary (it isn't) but if YOU want to list everything feel free to do so".
and then I gave the girls a hug, told them I loved them and to have a great night, turned around and said bye to my H and left.
Lesson for today. When they throw sh!t at you, breath, think of rainbows and unicorns, smile and then walk away calmly.
