No changes on WAW - Pack_19 Part II

[Pack_19]

Well how gracious of your royal heinous to let you approach her. (insert LH eye roll)

This made me laugh, thanks LH. Yes I was such an idiot, during covid I thought well I am calmed and gave her lots of space and she is the one to stop to chat when we exchange the kids. (loud ringer sound!) I made many mistakes, need to accept M is over and not approach W. Working on that!

As should you when you don't have the kids.

consider it done!

Wow! She's trying to make a six year old feel bad about himself.

I was hearing while cooking and I felt like shouting quit manipulating S6 as well please. Am I being unreasonable?

No!

Thank you! I was literally standing next to S6 ready to intervene when I thought it wasn't worth it and went back into the kitchen to keep making dinner. Now the next question, when I see this happen, is it fine to speak to my son about it and reassure he loves us both but we do have amazing fun together and I understand him wanting to spend more time with me?

Because you know I am the enemy. I know I show here a lot of attachment to W and focus on her but when I do gain clarity I am focused on 3 things. My personal growth, being the best father I can be and my goals in the PIES.

These are great goals!

I revise them every day, it is my new compass. I am going to be the man I want to be and build an amazing live, for me, for my happiness!

Because you are needy and insecure and that's what most likely got you here in the first place.

I was never like this, just the opposite. I need to find myself again.

Stop making excuses. If that is your dream then make it happen.

I am going to focus on my dreams and making them happen. That is one good exercise for this new life I want to live. Think abaut the steps that will take me there, write them down.

So you are only thinking about becoming a great father if it gets your wife back WTF????

No no! The only one place in my current status where W has no space is my relationship with the kids, that is above all this hell I am going through.

Pack I get the feeling you are obsessed with your W and reading your posts make me uncomfortable. If I can feel it then I am 100% sure your W feels it and it makes her feel unsafe. Until you change your mindset I don't see anything changing.

I hear you LH. Thanks a lot for the comment. Can you please extend on this? I know I do post a lot about "W has said", "W has done", "I am hurting b/c...", it is because I want to let steam off. Hearing an external, objective person like you saying this really troubles me, in the sense that I think, I must be so stuck on this that people are even giving up on me. I will make an effort to post more on my changes and work on myself rather on W interactions. In fact, I will minimize the interactions with W and post more about my changes.

I need to regain my self esteem, emotional stability, independence and happiness. Aside from W.

Thanks for your post. I will tell you the same I say to Sandi all day long. Please keep helping me, I am listening.