I’ve gotten a lot of those same apologies— you don’t deserve this, I’m sorry to do this to you, you crying is Kryptonite for me and I’ll do anything to prevent you from feeling this pain, i hate that I lied. Etc. but what I have never gotten is a heartfelt I wish I never did this, I regret it all. He’s tiptoed into it— I’m sorry I put us in this place, I’m sorry I brought a third person into our M. I guess I’m waiting for the rending of the clothes and beating of the chest and begging for forgiveness. Which won’t ever come. I just want to get to a place where he sees it as a big mistake. That he really f-ed up and is GD lucky to have a wife who is still here. Do you feel your H is sorry like that? (Again just really curious).
Me (46) H (42) M:14 T:18, D9 & D11 4/19 - 12/19: series of escalating BDs 9/20 - present: R and piecing