Learn from us. Cry as much as you want. But set aside two hours a day to be razor sharp, crystal clear. Go through all the money. Take half of it or more. If he asks, tell him to talk to your lawyer. If it bugs you to say that w/out explanation, tell him that your finances are separate from your feelings about the marriage, and you have to protect your half. Then smile cheerfully and leave the room. Remember that ad, "Never let 'em see you sweat"? Do that.
I would change this to say give yourself two hours only to cry, because you need the rest of the time and energy to protect yourself.
Originally Posted by job
When you go to the grocery store or any store, purchase a gift card. I was advised many years ago to take half out of the savings/checking accounts and move the funds to another account or put the funds into gift cards. The sooner you can speak to a lawyer and find out what you are entitled to, the better...but for now, take some of the money out of the account...after all, you are still married and should be able to withdraw some of it.
As Gerda pointed out, just smile and whatever you do, do not let him sweat. You have absolutely nothing to fear but fear itself.
You now must protect yourself at all costs because he's not going to give a fig as to how you will survive and manage once he's out the door. This is a business deal whereby a partner has walked away from his responsibility to you and to the marriage.
I would get a screen grab of the balance on the specific date/time, then move half to place where he cannot get it - gift card, safe deposit box, whatever ...
M 20+ T25+ S ~15.5 (BD) BD 4/6/15 D 12/23/16
"Someone I loved once gave me A box full of darkness. It took me years to understand, That this too, was a gift." ~ Mary Oliver
