Oh these changes will stick and I have been active in these changes since she left in April. They where more for myself and not just for my marriage. Things like the weight loss where 100% for me as she never had an issue with how I looked and what my weight was and says she is still attracted to me. Losing the weight had the added side effect of making me more confident but more importantly its helped my overall mental health and I am enjoying it. As soon as the swimming pools and gyms open back up here I will certainly be maintaining it.
Financial changes are in full swing with 90% of our (or my now) debt has been paid off and I have started concentrating on saving. Before she left I had spoken to my employers as I recognised we where not having enough time together I explained that to them which opened the door for me to apply for a new position and that meant I could work standard M-F 9/5 position which I had not done for a long time.
Everything my wife complained about where VERY practical problems that had we both put our heads together we could have worked on very easily (money, not going out enough, spending too much time working etc). Which is why it really grates on me she didn't speak up about how "unhappy" she was, should I have recognised it thats one I grapple with but I certainly should have been more aware of what was happening in my marriage.
Of course being able to save money and not impulse buying is behavioural and is something that I am still actively working on as in if I do want to buy something I will make sure to have savings away and what I want to buy should be covered by cleared funds.
