Hi everyone, I know it's been a while. Not sure why I haven't posted and I am not sure how often I will but I guess I just got to a place where I wanted to enjoy life and not be bogged down with my thoughts and analyzing where I am at or where I am going or how I was feeling.
I am still not married nor engaged but moving closer. Talks have come up and I know the Doc is ready but I am not mainly because of the kids. Honestly I am scared. I think my fears are mainly based on my daughters. I have realized they are very protective of me and they thoroughly enjoy their time with their dad in our house just the 3 of us. In some areas things have improved with the kids but in other areas they are the same however I do feel progress is being made it is just slow. The Doc's attitude is that there will be tears and an adjustment period but we just have to work through it. My thoughts are that my girls have to feel comfortable and when we get married our house is their house as well and they need to feel comfortable in it. They can't feel like outsiders, strangers or concerned about her son and how he is behaving or being territorial over his things. I just dont' think he is quite there yet. The Doc just wants to rip the band aid off. That said things have improved.
We will be taking our first mini vacation over Labor Day weekend just the 5 of us so hopefully that will help. I have been very honest with the Doc so she does know where I stand.
Other than the stuff with the kids life is grand! I just celebrated my 47th last weekend with close family and friends. It was an awesome day and evening. The Doc is still sweet as ever and I am truly blessed that I met her. Things that used to bother me don't any more and I am glad I stayed the course and worked through my issues. We see each other about 5 out of the 7 days during the week when I don't have my girls and the weeks that I have them we get together as a family on Friday or Saturday. I am still working from home and work from her place during my off weeks as I help her out with child care with her son. She calls me her "Manny".
I know it is still very early in our relationship but she appreciates me in ways my XW never did. She values everything that I have to offer. She values that I am a true partner and I support her in ways that her XH never did. Mainly I just listen, validate and am sensitive to her needs. There have still been no fights or arguments and I think we make a really good team.
Things with the XW have been great as well. We actually work very well together as co-parents and she has not given me once ounce of trouble with the Doc. I have met her BF a couple of times now and all has been well on that front also. He seems like a good guy it seems that we get along well. He recently moved to a different town that is about 40 minutes from where the XW lives so it would seem that they are just fine with dating as I would assume they would have moved in together or if their were plans to get married he would have moved where she was at. Anyway, she seems happy.
All in all I am doing very well, my girls are doing great also, and I couldn't be happier with where I am at.
I hope everyone is healthy and doing great!
Last edited by job; 07/28/2004:37 PM. Reason: added link to previous thread
