Some people don't move on even after a divorce. Moving on is a process you do. The door is closed when you decide, and sometimes people decide the door is closed and then change their minds. My wife did that very thing.
Let's say you file, what happens next and what is your vision for life moving forward?
Thanks for your thoughts. I think where I'm coming from is just sort of how I am - I don't give up, I try to find any way to work a problem and hold on way too long in the process. It's only when there is strong, clear closure that I can turn my attention to something else.
I don't think much changes if I file. I continue focusing on my work, and on getting emotionally healthy through therapy, coaching and meditation. I'm not going to rush back into anything, not until I feel that I am in a place of emotional capacity to allow someone else in.
Originally Posted by ovrrnbw
Her actions also show that she is not ready to file, or else she would have. It doesn't take a year to do that.
Sure, but I don't attribute that to ambivalence on her part. I attribute it to just not wanting to deal with it, and wanting to get the separation agreement in place so that she gets what she feels is fair.
Could she change her mind? Sure. But I just no longer believe that there a way this works out.
Where I do have some hesitation is that I want to make sure that I decide this with a clear mind, not influenced by a conversation with a friend or on an emotional whim. Right now I am hurting and I am down because I am burning off the denial; you could probably say that choosing to file is an angry response to that. So maybe just letting it settle for awhile is fine.
