My story, trial separation for now, Part 4

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I like this:

But there's also a voice in the back of my head that is saying, "Look, see how this plays out. Expect D. Mentally and legally prepare for it. Only sign the separation agreement if the terms are what you'd be comfortable with if she walked out the door the next day. But see how it plays out."

But I'm not sure about this:

So I guess knowing all of that, my impulse to D is to take back control and power, because I don't think it is fair or right to be put in this situation by her, and because I can't fully move on unless the door is closed.

Some people don't move on even after a divorce. Moving on is a process you do. The door is closed when you decide, and sometimes people decide the door is closed and then change their minds. My wife did that very thing.

Let's say you file, what happens next and what is your vision for life moving forward?

it's clear from her actions that she isn't in the same place, even if I take her at her word about the separation agreement.

Her actions also show that she is not ready to file, or else she would have. It doesn't take a year to do that.