What annoys me the most is I have made made so many changes and done so much work that she recognises and now she is vocalising at least some of her faults (expect the one where she let the OM in) and YET because she is now so deep in the fog and fantasy nothing can be done with any of it.
Sooo you made all these changes in you that have been engrained in you for 39 years in two months. How many are likely to stick? Did you know that 90% of the people on the biggest loser gain their weight back? Why? Because changes needs to be gradual over a long period of time to stick.
Originally Posted by WMWB
Such powerful knowledge to be able to move forward to have made our marriage stronger (if the A didn't happen OR at least she recognised and was really remorseful for that as well)
If the A didn't happen you wouldn't have been motivated to make any changes. Change is hard. That's why most people never change.
