FS, I'm glad for you. Does it feel like relief? Holding your breath?
There is no perfect time for any of this but this is your time to make a step in a direction you feel is best. If I might offer one suggestion that comes to mind, you might consider your responses to him ahead of time so you feel confident in responding calmly. Whatever that response might be. "This is not done out of malice or spite, but simply a logical step forward. Just as you have moved forward with ___ I feel the best thing for me is to move forward with formalizing this."
Or whatever your words are. I just don't want him to get under your skin, and for me I feel better when a response is rehearsed if it's an emotional one.
