(((MoGirl))). My XH was engaged before he even admitted OW was his girlfriend and not his roommate. I get the anger. I get the betrayal. I get wanting to confront him. My advice would be similar to Wooba’s. Sit with it for awhile. Figure out what it is you hope would happen if you confronted him. If you hope it will change something, I probably wouldn’t do it if I were you as likely it would only push him further away and help him further justify his actions.
Having said that, I did end up confronting my XH. In hindsight, I guess it allowed me to vent a bit and it was somewhat cathartic because I cried in that meeting more than I did the entire time I was “grieving”. I do cringe a bit when I think about it though. I hate that he had that much effect on my mental state at the time and, even more so, I hate that he knew it. And, at the end of the day, my actions changed nothing. We got divorced and they are still getting married.
The good news is that I am WAY over it and happier than I have been in YEARS. There is life after divorce. I wouldn’t have believed it two years ago but I know better now. Don’t be afraid to let your lying cheater go. I did and it was the best decision I could have made. (((HUGS)))
