I want to reply to all of you but just quickly wanted to reply to kml.
We had roughly 27k in savings last July, a month after BD. In that month, from the one statement I saw, he had removed about 8k. Let's say 2k of that was for both of our car repairs. Now he's telling me there's 15k left. I suppose there might be a time when I say it would be better to just divide that 15k that's left 50-50, as trying to figure out where the other 12k went would cost as much as the half I would be getting of it--does that make sense?
House is rental. I am on unemployment and working reduced hours at my job right now, while he has a guaranteed job and additional gig income. I feel that it is way more of a hardship on me to have to suddenly leave my house, when the rent is below the current market and anything else I could find. Even before the pandemic, the two Ls I spoke too agreed that it made sense for me to stay in the house. Of course H thinks I deserve nothing, so I'm not sure, now that he's backtracked on his plan to move out, how that would be settled. He thinks if I don't leave the house, he will take the pets, and that's the offer he made after his tirade.
I have unemployment money on a state-provided debit card from the last three months that I'm hoping he won't be entitled to. I've been trying to save as much of it as I can to support myself on my own--to help pay for rent until I get my first paycheck from teaching gig in November and to pay for IC.
That's it for assets other than two older cars in his name, one which we drove out here in before we were married (I gave up my old car and we kept his instead); one which we were given after we married. He owns many tools that are probably worth something, and many, many expensive pocketknives (some of which he's acquired in the last year, so that, for instance, is not a joint expense he says he was using our savings money for!) that are definitely worth something.
Oh, and pension--I don't know what it is worth and would need to find that out from a lawyer. A good pension over ten years divided between both of us. I'm thinking it must be worth something, or he wouldn't be so angry about me "fighting him" for it.
I tried to tell him I only wanted what the law says I am entitled to, but of course that doesn't compute to him. He just repeats that I am being mean and fighting to take away what he worked so hard to earn.
