Gerda--I just read your note! He doesn't want mediation. I am wondering now even if we had mediation, how it would help if he is unwilling to accept that I deserve what the law states. Is it because the mediator would be the one telling him what the courts would decide, and not me? Would this somehow make him act rationally? And would the mediator be able to address the money he has taken out of our savings? I prefer mediation, but I was thinking a lawyer would have to divide up what of the money he has taken should be mine.
Editing one more time to just say... I don't know how to force him to go to mediation. And telling him that lawyers are going to cost more doesn't sway him either, because he doesn't think he will have to pay for any of my attorney fees. I don't even know how the court makes another party pay logistically--I'm just going by what the lawyers I consulted with said.
