I am going to get an appointment with a lawyer as soon as I can. Thanks for the support, foxpop. No one does free consults around here unfortunately. I know he's going to be even angrier when I inevitably try to get him (or my L does) to pay for my legal services. From the consults I had previously, it's pretty cut and dry that I am entitled to half of savings, even if it was only in his name. He's even yelling about getting an annulment so he doesn't owe me anything. I'm pretty sure you can't do that after 10 years of M. The car is not in my name, but I am on the insurance as a driver, so even if he did call the police, I should be fine. I'm wondering if the L would consider any of the things he's said threats.
When my H was going through what some call monster phase he would make all kinds of threats and they were really scary. Most of his threats were never carried out thankfully but you're right to be cautious because when they are like this it is hard to know what they will and won't go through with. From what i have read on this board I don't think he can get an annulment but I'm sure someone on here who is more familiar with your laws will be able to clarify for you. One of my friends who used to work at a law firm advised me when H was at his worse to record all of our phone conversations and keep all of his texts as evidence of any unreasonable behaviour. You can get free apps for this. Might be something worth looking into just in case.
