The end that never comes

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That happened to me with so many things but your post made me remember our YMCA membership. I kept him on there for five years after BD though he was AWOL and MIA and all that and though he never gave me a penny towards household or kids and regularly stole money. I thought, well, we are still a family and I should cover the family membership in case he wants to go with the kids sometime and so he doesn't feel I am kicking him out. Looking back that is so INSANE that I thought that way. But finally I told him I couldn't afford it anymore (this was while he was living with us and refusing to move out though he was divorcing me) and took him off so I could save the $75 a month. He went crazy, saying this was proof of what a terrible wife I was and was the very reason he could never be with me.

When you look back on it all, you really can't believe what you thought you had to navigate. I was watching AOC's speech yesterday and wondered how that young girl can think that clearly about respect and dignity when Gerda in her 40's got so confused.