KC, personally I love your posts that have nothing to do with him! And this is not just you but lots of LBSs. If LBSs focused more on themselves and what they'd should be doing, and less on what is going on with the WAS they'd be so much better off. Head space is precious, and if the WAS is such a big part of the LBS's posts, I can just imagine that the LBS much be obsessing in their own head about the WAS. I did that for a few weeks, but then eventually got to a healthier place where I was focusing on me because I had no control over her and what she was going to do.

I really think that the LBSs that struggle the most are the ones that can't let go of the idea that there is something that can be done, or some big even that can cause the WAS to wake up. I remember early on in my sitch I thought if I had a medical scare (I am a picture of perfect health!) then maybe she would realize she still cares about and loves me. LOL The LBS mind is an illogical mess of grasping at straws.

KC, I think LH is right. You are still in serious denial. I think you expect to wake up one morning and it was all a bad dream. And I am not "roasting" you I am simply telling you what I observe. I do not think you've made much progress on detachment. And usually that is traced to not GAL and not focusing on becoming the best that you can be. So on GAL, is there more you could be doing to stay busy? Can you spend more time keeping your body and mind occupied so you aren't spinning on him and the sitch? What are you reading? What are your plans for this weekend?

M(53), W(54),D(19)
M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017
Ring and Piecing since March 2018