The muted text thing is what it is - I try to avoid the home screen on the text app but that is not always something that can be done unless I just frankly stop texting everyone. If he has texted it will be on the homescreen at the top.
I guess I am still confused why it's muted. If you are accepting his texts then accept his texts.
Originally Posted by KitCat
If I am being roasted for going NC for my own sanity. Then blocking his number would fall under that same category - why can't I handle seeing his number... why would I have to block - that's just going NC.
You can't handle seeing his number because you are still in denial of the D. This is something IMO you should be working on with a therapist.
Originally Posted by KitCat
I don't want him to think that he is getting to me....
He already knows he's getting to you.
Originally Posted by KitCat
If I tell him to only email me and not to call/text.... he will tell everyone how I'm not handling things well and how he can't contact me anymore because it upsets me ---------------------------- that's a weak attraction for sure.
I am going to disagree with this theory. You tell him anything related to the D you want a paper trail and want it done by email. That makes it business like and a sign of strength. He won't like it but will respect it.
Originally Posted by KitCat
I have to hold my head high and continue to act "as if" nothing bothers me UNTIL it really doesn't.
Again, you can still accomplish this by asking him to email you in regards to D.
