I don't want a divorce II NEW THREAD Pt 19

[LH19]

So I did fantastic and ignored by both texts sent by H on Monday morning and Tuesday night. Tuesday's text even asked me a question "did he send the right information?" I realized that was him just trying to get a response from me because I sent a list of 3 things I needed which were basic and easy enough.

Mindreading. My guess is he just wanted his information.

Why did I not respond?

Because you were informed by searching the internet that the best way to get your ex back is to go no contact.

Because I know I'm not ready. I have to stay NC because anytime there is a calm, friendly interaction my brain goes right toooo... maybe he is rethinking things and wants to try. UGH - Yes, I know that is completely wrong but I cannot get my brain to accept that he just doesn't want to be seen as the AHole and just wants his money.

You can ignore reality but you can't ignore the consequences of ignoring reality.

I was asleep and answered the phone not really paying attention to who was calling. I mean I saw the name but in that brain fog... sigh.

You should have never answered the phone! So much for mystery.

I answered Hello... he immediately said did I wake you? Uhm.. yes... Well he just kept right on talking. "I need to talk about credit cards... do I have all my cards? what is capital one? ((your X Store card - oh right))." I made it clear I didn't know off the top of my head but I was not getting out of bed to deal with it and would let him know later.

Good!

He was like "well you weren't answering my texts so I had to call" -- No You Did Not. There was not one text asking about credit cards... whatever.

he's pretty impatient.

I left it that I hadn't even looked at his email because I haven't been feeling well - which is true. I haven't been feeling 100% these last 2 days and I literally did nothing yesterday.

I am sorry you are not feeling good but I am calling BS on not looking at the email.

He quickly said "I hope you feel better". I just replied "thank-you, and I'll talk with you later, bye".

Why would you say "I'll talk to you later"?

I did not ask him a single question. I only answered questions he asked and briefly. I got off the phone as soon as possible.

You should have never been on the phone.

BUT, here we go.... he was calm and polite and here goes my brain... maybe he is reaching for things to call me over because he wants to see where things are at? That he is curious??? Maybe he is waffling.

He's not waffling. He is more sure then ever.

^^^^^ This is why I have to stay NC. My brain wants to betray me every single time.

No again it is because you searched the internet and were told the best way to get your ex back is to go NC.

I wasn't responding to his texts and frankly in the past that would escalate to an angry text that "ignoring him isn't helping the situation" I'm surprised that didn't happen... literally was prepping for the increase in anger but he was cool.

I think he realized he gets whatever he wants no matter how he treats you.

I also feel that he must have felt him losing his grip on me when I didn't respond to the texts therefore he called... I answered... he got his fix of me and is content again to keep going in the forward motion he currently is heading.

It's pretty arrogant of you to think he needs of fix of you. You really enjoy the thought of being plan B.

Maybe I can pretend answering the phone was just a bad dream

I don't even know what that means.

Look KK, I know this is difficult for you but you have to drop the rope. He's not coming back anytime soon. You know when NC will work? When you do it because you want NC. I'm NC with my ex not because of manipulation, its because I have nothing to say to someone who doesn't give a $hit about me. I only want people in my life who value me. It really is that simple. You'll get there eventually. We are just trying to spare you more pain and rejection.