So I did fantastic and ignored by both texts sent by H on Monday morning and Tuesday night. Tuesday's text even asked me a question "did he send the right information?" I realized that was him just trying to get a response from me because I sent a list of 3 things I needed which were basic and easy enough.
Why did I not respond? Because I know I'm not ready. I have to stay NC because anytime there is a calm, friendly interaction my brain goes right toooo... maybe he is rethinking things and wants to try. UGH - Yes, I know that is completely wrong but I cannot get my brain to accept that he just doesn't want to be seen as the AHole and just wants his money.
Soooo... not responding in 2 days... he calls at 11pm at night.
I was asleep and answered the phone not really paying attention to who was calling. I mean I saw the name but in that brain fog... sigh.
I answered Hello... he immediately said did I wake you? Uhm.. yes... Well he just kept right on talking. "I need to talk about credit cards... do I have all my cards? what is capital one? ((your X Store card - oh right))." I made it clear I didn't know off the top of my head but I was not getting out of bed to deal with it and would let him know later.
He was like "well you weren't answering my texts so I had to call" -- No You Did Not. There was not one text asking about credit cards... whatever.
I left it that I hadn't even looked at his email because I haven't been feeling well - which is true. I haven't been feeling 100% these last 2 days and I literally did nothing yesterday.
He quickly said "I hope you feel better". I just replied "thank-you, and I'll talk with you later, bye".
I did not ask him a single question. I only answered questions he asked and briefly. I got off the phone as soon as possible.
BUT, here we go.... he was calm and polite and here goes my brain... maybe he is reaching for things to call me over because he wants to see where things are at? That he is curious??? Maybe he is waffling.
^^^^^ This is why I have to stay NC. My brain wants to betray me every single time.
I wasn't responding to his texts and frankly in the past that would escalate to an angry text that "ignoring him isn't helping the situation" I'm surprised that didn't happen... literally was prepping for the increase in anger but he was cool.
I also feel that he must have felt him losing his grip on me when I didn't respond to the texts therefore he called... I answered... he got his fix of me and is content again to keep going in the forward motion he currently is heading.
Maybe I can pretend answering the phone was just a bad dream
