[DnJ]

Hello scout

You have a very good list of long term priorities for yourself. Good job. You’d be surprise (or not) at how many people really have no plan what so ever.

Anyhow, a wee bit of advice from a guy who’s got a couple of decades on you. Breakdown each of those items into smaller actual goals/steps/milestones, and you will achieve them. For example: Financial Security, what does that look like to you. What do you need to see to know you made it. Then you can figure out actionable step to get there.

I like Investing in S2’s Future. There is a lot of space for ideas regarding this one. Wanting the funds to allow him to attend post secondary education. I need $100,000. Ok, I’ll invest $50/month at x%, compounded monthly, for 16 years, and bingo.

The money aside, invest your time. (Think years from now) As he gets older, as my life gets busier, as the demands of my employment grow, as his demands at school increase, as his wanting to be with friends increases, we will still sit and eat super together every Wednesday, Friday, and Sunday night. Not at the TV, around the table. Ok, that is years away. Still, set the stage for that, now. Which, btw, you are doing.

Good for you proceeding with the divorce all on your own. Yeah, XH is dragging his feet.

I know technically he is my ex, but the distinction feels important to me. I don’t want him to be ‘my anything’.

It’s coming.

I technically am divorce. However, I mostly think of my self as single rather than divorced. I suppose it’s more how I choose to define myself.

I do agree we have responses to perceived or subconscious dangers, those ‘sparks’ you spoke of. I did actually have to look up negging to see what you were talking about. Lol. Dang, these young kids and their new fangled words and stuff. (Raps on window with walking stick) Hey, you kids get off my lawn. hahahahaha

Good luck on your date.

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