may, I am glad to see your H seems to be moving toward really trying on his own terms. I am always rooting for you. I wonder if it puts too much unnecessary pressure on yourself to try to decide whether trip is more DBing or piecing? Is this the point where you would sort of throw that distinction out the window for a bit and just focus on what feels right to you, for you moment by moment? Or would it maybe put too much pressure on the both of you if you had it in your head you were, like, officially in the piecing stage as soon as the car let the driveway? Maybe in choosing to accept or agree with your H's perspective that if you're working on your R, you're on the trip together--maybe that tells you enough? Obviously, my role here is to just ask a bunch more questions I don't have the answers to.
