I think i read your thread and it just feels so similar in terms of what husband is saying, his reasoning and inability to take responsibility for his own actions, just trying to justify. Its only been 4 months for us, but im seriously over it, you know the constant lies, the accusations. Coasting and not taking responsibility for anything. Lets put it this way, It works for me now because it doesnt affect me financially and the boys and i have kept our lifestyle. I know this is temporary, as soon he wont have anywhere to live and will have two options, move in back with us (shock horror on my face) or maybe with his sister! Ill post again im sure when that happens! I have no idea how to deal with this sitch. As he is clear he doesnt wan to be with me, he is still seeing the girls and how am i supposed to live with him?!
There is certainly a WS playbook. And most of them follow the majority of the playbook. For instance, another is history rewriting. Most of us have heard things like "I was never happy." My W and I were married for 19 years, with many many wonderful times and moments. But on BD it was all bad all the time from day one.
If you read other's threads you'll see that the overall actions, whether the details of the actions are the same or not, are very similar.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
