Gordie - I'm going to ask you a tough question that's not very DB.

It's been 4 years now. You've been doing pretty much all the heavy lifting on this and it sounds like your W has no interest in doing any work to build a solid marriage with you but is just coasting along.

Is this the life you want? Given that the only person you can really control is yourself - what actions can you take to get to the life you want?

Keep in mind that my perspective is that of someone who has gone through divorce and out the other side. And it is "survivable" but also no fun at all either. But in hindsight, knowing that my ex was someone who wouldn't have put in any sustained effort and would have expected everything to be swept under the rug, for me - I personally - feel that I'm better off with that behind me.

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T27, M26
S21, D23
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