So you don't really know if he ever filled it out? I mean if you never saw it who knows if he actually did it or was just blowing smoke. Doesn't sound like you were being unreasonable, but he made it sound that way.
I do know that he did fill it out - I saw it. I also know he gave it to his "free" atty. Who later dropped him because I had gotten an atty and she was no longer allowed to represent him.
But, he has had plenty of time to just pull a form from online and fill out again OR just get his original form back and he hasn't.
He has had plenty of time to get a new atty and hasn't. He of course has the attitude he shouldn't have to pay for something he could have gotten for free BUT, this is not his first divorce. He had to get an atty last time so I don't understand his logic, but that's not for me to understand.
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You know that saying- "prepare for the worst and hope for the best." You really, really need to prepare for the worst. And you have for the most part, but I think you need to EXPECT the worst too and I don't think you're there yet. My XW and I very peacefully worked everything out before filing. Then literally hours before she was supposed to file, she came back demanding more money (I think it was 5k or so). She sent an email about it that honestly looked like a drunk 6-year-old wrote it, I am not even exaggerating. I could not figure out what it said, it was all gibberish. I asked her to sit down with me so we could discuss it as I didn't understand where she came up with the numbers. For the first time in the whole process she went absolutely postal. Made angry threats, told me we would just fight it out in court "and believe me, things will not go your way." I wasn't going to spend 20k on a lawyer to try to save 5k, so I just told her "I don't understand where these numbers came from, but I do believe you think it's an honest settlement so make the changes and I'll sign it." My point is this- whatever he has said to you about the settlement DOES NOT MATTER. Every court in the country will tell you it's all about "the four corners of the contract." What is written on paper and processed by the court is ALL that matters. All promises great and small are null and void. I think you are starting to see the first signs that he's not just going to roll over on a nice fat settlement for you. Try to work it out with him if you think you can, but at the FIRST signs of resistance from him then bring your L back in.
I'm really a lot more pulled back in the last several days.
Apparently he contacted me Sunday afternoon. His texts are muted so I didn't notice it until 9pm. I still didn't bother to read it. At 51yr old I took the evening to try and edible... LOL... never ever did drugs before but it was legal and so I was officially baked. Went to bed and woke up to more texts because I hadn't answered his text... OH, WELL... not my problem.
I just responded with the business item the next morning and kept moving forward.
He emailed the business stuff early this morning that was needed. He then sent me a text telling me that he emailed me (that was probably unnecessary... whatever). I did not respond to either. I don't need to. He wasn't asking anything.
I realize that at any point in time he can change this to straight up D. Get an atty because he doesn't like the number he gets. I accept that things could change. For that reason I'm having as little contact as needed and I'm not rushing. I expect to give myself 2-3 weeks just to fill out paperwork. He has choices if he doesn't like it.
Went to bed and woke up to more texts because I hadn't answered his text... OH, WELL... not my problem.