So H filled out this paperwork before on his own to give to his "free" atty. I never saw the finished paperwork and never had a copy of it. H has never provided a copy. So, it has to be filled out again. Hence why I had to call to request documents.
So you don't really know if he ever filled it out? I mean if you never saw it who knows if he actually did it or was just blowing smoke. Doesn't sound like you were being unreasonable, but he made it sound that way.
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As for things being weighted heavily in my favor - he has stated not to touch the equity in my home, he is paying off the car that my son drives, etc. NOW, is it really in my favor? IDK as atty has not looked at the numbers and given me her opinion.
You know that saying- "prepare for the worst and hope for the best." You really, really need to prepare for the worst. And you have for the most part, but I think you need to EXPECT the worst too and I don't think you're there yet. My XW and I very peacefully worked everything out before filing. Then literally hours before she was supposed to file, she came back demanding more money (I think it was 5k or so). She sent an email about it that honestly looked like a drunk 6-year-old wrote it, I am not even exaggerating. I could not figure out what it said, it was all gibberish. I asked her to sit down with me so we could discuss it as I didn't understand where she came up with the numbers. For the first time in the whole process she went absolutely postal. Made angry threats, told me we would just fight it out in court "and believe me, things will not go your way." I wasn't going to spend 20k on a lawyer to try to save 5k, so I just told her "I don't understand where these numbers came from, but I do believe you think it's an honest settlement so make the changes and I'll sign it." My point is this- whatever he has said to you about the settlement DOES NOT MATTER. Every court in the country will tell you it's all about "the four corners of the contract." What is written on paper and processed by the court is ALL that matters. All promises great and small are null and void. I think you are starting to see the first signs that he's not just going to roll over on a nice fat settlement for you. Try to work it out with him if you think you can, but at the FIRST signs of resistance from him then bring your L back in.
