And why is MC not also part of the requirements here?
Thanks for catching this. To be honest, I am still processing alot of anger. He has broken my trust and hurt me in so many ways: Stole from me, gambled away 30k (confirmed, still pending checking on additional 30k) Betrayal, betrayed me in the most intimate way with the affair Broke me, by continuing the affair and forcing an open marriage Hurt me physically, took advantage of me non-consensually and was forceful enough to cause trauma to my body
That is alot. And, he has not properly acknowledged any of the pain of the above points OR to what extent he has been so cruel and unkind and literally just a bully for the past 6 months. It took alot to bear that weight and I don't think he gets the incredible effort that took. My head is moving forward and turning towards him as best I can, as this is the right thing to do for this marriage... but my heart still hurts.
The man broke my spirit and I was in total grief and heartbroken for a long time - and he was such a JERK! I think its natural for me to be mad/angry...so I am dealing with this. I have way too much anger to effectively be in marriage counseling. I would stall the whole process, most likely would attack or push back on every point. He has a lot of issues - let him engage in IC first and possibly/hopefully will get to a place of ownership for his part... and then we can MC ...when I am ready to wholeheartedly engage in a healthy way.
In that case you should be requiring IC for yourself too.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
