To add to your list, I would suggest that you can't really go any further with him until he takes total responsibility - verbally and with follow up actions (like registering at a domestic violence and sex offenders treatment programme) for the worst of his behaviour towards you. I'd also be looking for him to be paying back any money he stole.
I think your decision not to go to MC until he is taking responsibility for his abuse is a very very wise move on your part.
