Living with a WAS/MLC husband...who does not care

[BlueSea]

Thanks Steve - I am requiring:

Cut down on drinking / He has stopped drinking all together
Stop taking testosterone
Make efforts via verifiable actions (initiate activities like biking, walking, meander type trips)
Engage with me (talk to me kindly! start conversations)
Counseling (individual)
Transparency (answer questions, offer up more info, phone access)

Definitely suggest more if this list seems light.
I have no idea on what to do to make this marriage ship move forward. I am trying find an online program for ideas, potentially one by Gottman - he is here in Seattle, checking for upcoming workshops. And there is a Retrovaille (sp?) here in October, which I have heard is really good.