I googled ego driven the other day and yes, that fits him fairly well. I have at times thought he might be a narcissist (mainly in the months around BD when he was mean) but I feel now that that was too harsh. He is not a bad person. He did not enter into our relationship with poor intentions. In fact, he adored me. He was just (and has always) been selfish. It's just that for 80% of our marriage, what he wanted was to build the best life possible for our family - the fancy job, the big house, the picket white fence, the beautiful and accomplished wife and the perfect children. For the last 20% he wanted to be on his own. Not single, just not a family man. No responsibilities, no obligations. He bought things for him. He went on holidays with his friends. He spent money on him. He wanted to go out and drink with his friends. That just didn't gel with the family life. Unfortunately, I think that he found out too late that that was a fantasy. That his friends were also family men and didn't want to spend their nights hanging out in bars and that spending all day on his own (while we were here) was just plain lonely. I don't think it took him that long tbh. I think he was probably on dating sites within 4-6 months of moving out.
On the 'it's all about him' quote. The other day I sent him a message saying that D10 would be staying over a friends house. This was my night to have them, but as he had said he wanted to know if/when the girls were staying with anyone else, I thought I'd let him know. His response "Thanks. I'm flying tomorrow anyway". It made me laugh. Not, "Thanks for letting me know" or "Great. I'm sure she'll have a great time", but "I'm flying anyway". All about him and the impact on him.
Croatia mid August, and then Ibizia late August. I cannot wait.
Yail - I didn't answer your question. I am half Filipino and I grew up in Australia. I was watching an african american comedian the other day whose wife is Filipino and he said "and our kids look Puertorican" which pretty much describes me. Accent wise I'd say it's pretty Londonish with an slight aussie twang.
