I am also going to chime in on the 50/5@ custody schedule you have outlines.
I don’t have 50/50. More like 70/30. But my daughter has been at this for 13 years. (She’s 13) and she’s been vocal about what works for her. Splitting nights is very stressful on the kids. Having to shift gears so much, not being able to settle in for the night, knowing they go from school, to one home to any other is just too much. My daughter greatly expresses the less movement, the better.
The hardest part is deciding what’s best for us, vs. what’s best for them. And making so many transitions in one day is just too much. I know of course you want as much time as you’d an have with them, and will miss them when they are at the other parents house...... but I can tell you, it won’t work for them. What’s worked for a lot that I know have 50/50 is every other weekend, one mare to gets Monday Tuesday, the other gets Wednesday Thursday .
I’m not telling you what to do, but I thought I might be able to help given I’ve been doing this for so long. The split week nights are just to much for them
