That dang pasta salad. You are allowed to be vulnerable sometimes, to get on and back off the rollercoaster. I get frustrated with myself when I go through a similar cycle, but I am telling you what I should tell myself, which is don't be embarrassed; just let yourself be. I have the same questions you do. I have not come up with any clear answers. I don't know how helpful it is to ask them, but they do seem to be very human, natural questions when things end up this way.
Originally Posted by wooba
What is real? What is true? What's real is the love my children and I have for each other. What's true is our actions will match our words (most of the time). We got each other's backs in highs and in lows. We do not desert each other when things get difficult......
This is lovely. It is real and true. I wonder if the love you had/the version of H from before can also be real and true, even if it/he is now changed. Maybe it was also real and true, and the questions we (now I'm including myself too) are asking ourselves are beside the point now.
Take care of yourself during this tender time, wooba.
