I am happy in myself, Dilly - though sadly, getting significantly less sex than you are. I am very jealous!!
I have had a pretty full on week, getting ready for the holiday, sorting out house a bit, finishing up some stuff at work and arranging cover for what's important while I am away. We're just about packed up and looking forward to it.
H has been fine the last week or so. He is really very good around the house, despite his other flaws, and even though he's working really hard, he's done a lot around the house and with Youngest, and made it very easy for me to have GAL this week too. I find it easy to express genuine gratitude for him and I think he appreciates that. He's been very decent towards me in his language and behaviour, which has made this week easier, and I appreciate that too (though I'm not about to start thanking him for keeping a civil tongue in his head!)
I have been keeping an eye on what I DON'T say. There's very little on these boards about piecing - though I am not sure if that is where my heart is - but I am sure a lot of the stuff we don't say - the STFU that is so important after BD - needs saying and discussing properly and carefully during piecing. I can let things go - minor domestic annoyances, differences in opinions, him being a bit grumpy or snappy after a night shift. That all feels an appropriate part of living peacefully with another person and I can tell - when I am a bit untidy or can't park the car or cook something that he doesn't like - he does the same thing, and I appreciate that.
But there are some things that I either have to say, and have heard, and have him take action on, or I need to accept they will never change, and make a decision based on that.
I am really not sure we ever got into piecing, as I was so busy validating, doing my 180s and Sing TFU that the stuff that was really important to me - the reasons why I was so desperate for him to get out of the house - have never been appropriately addressed. That's a lesson to me.
