Well AS, you did something I didn't think could happen at this point. You knocked me back out of being 100 percent sure I'm ready to move on.
Great! Divorce isn't the end of the world, but it will impact your kids. With 50/50 custody, you're not insulating your kids from experiencing her parenting style, you're insulating yourself from it.
Originally Posted by Core
Seeing the holes you poked in to our communications, I see how some more of this is my fault or something I could've done differently.
Obviously, her communication could use work as well. "Youre going to put the dishes away" is controlling. "You're going to ask me respectfully" is also controlling. High criticism and defense. Low listening and validation. As AnotherStander says, a change on one side can have a surprising impact. In many situations I'm like, "Move on! They're a lying cheater." Here I see hope, if you could be the first to change. It doesn't always work but improving communication is worth a shot. Worst-case, it'll help with co-parenting.
