Before I sign it, I want to have a discussion with her about what's next, how we're feeling, and set my expectations that we need to spend at least one hour a week together -- not a date, but going for a walk, catching up on our lives, leaning into the connection that is obviously still there.
No no no no Steve. You are going to try to force her to spend time with you? That's pressure and controlling. Have you learned anything?
Originally Posted by SteveS
Being the logical person I am, when I try to reason this out, it doesn't really add up. If the door really was still open, she would be more communicative around that fact, because then it would make me more amicable to find a resolution. .
Steve the door is closed, shut and locked. I am sorry.
Originally Posted by SteveS
I have a difficult time understanding the balance between standing up for the things that I need and setting boundaries vs. listening to her, validating, and disagreeing but letting it be. How would you respond to that push back? .
Give me an example of push back.
Originally Posted by SteveS
Anyway, the mindset I'm taking with all of this is that this is 99% headed for D, and that I need to protect myself, and above all not make any decisions trying to influence or grasp for that remaining 1%..
Good!
Originally Posted by SteveS
There's a huge part of me that just wants to say "Screw this!" and just file for divorce, throwing the separation agreement aside. .
