I believe every WW must suffer some type of loss due to her own choices to rebel and disrespect her H and the M. It has to be personal for her and it has to cut deeply. It may, or may not, have anything directly to do with her H, but she'll make the connection in how it has everything to do with the disrespectful, selfish, and rebellious choices she's made. If she is humbled, then hopefully, remorse for her choices will come, and not too late. You see, she is not going to experience all those loving feelings for her LBH, until remorse and humbleness can wash away some of that negative mindset that grew out of control. She'll have to forgive her H from those things in the past that she resented. Really forgive him. She'll have to be willing to change her heart, and her life. In other words, stop living and making decisions from a place of emotions, and chose to do what is right. IMHO, if she doesn't have remorse and humility, I don't think the couple will have a long term, happy reconciliation. They may co-exist, but it won't be happy and fulfilling.
Sandi, do you think that is the only way for the WW to have a change of heart for the M? It doesn't seem to be something we have any influence over, so it relies on pure chance/luck/God's intervention, without which there is no hope.
