Ending Limbo

[Core]

AS, glad to see you back on the board. Hope all has been well.

AS and IW, thank you for the feedback. I hope W doesnt see this and murder me in my sleep (slightly joking). Where im confused on detachment...I would be ok for myself at this point (not the kids) if W was out of the picture and living her own life. Preferably with happiness. If anybody, close to me or not says something hurtful, I will be hurt on some level. W saying hurtful things, hurts. Is it actually possible to completely turn that off?

Ovr, telling my D she isnt nice because she spilled while trying to pour a gallon of milk is what scares me. She could hear my W, she didnt ignore her. She didnt try to spill, it was an accident. Heres how i handled it with water, I forget exact words.

D4: can i pour the water?
Core: sure, when the cup is almost full, lift up the jug so it stops pouring, its heavy.
D4: *spills* oops, i spilled
Core: it happens, *grabs paper towels* please start cleaning up while i put the water away.
D4: ok dada
Core: do you know why it spilled?
D4: its too heavy!
Core: we'll try again another time