(((Ginger))). So sorry you are feeling so down these days my friend. Please, please, please try to keep the faith. I fully believe there is a great guy out there looking for you...you just have to go through a lot of wrong ones before you find him unfortunately. I watch a lot of dating and life advice on YouTube...Matthew Hussey being my favourite. I especially watch them when I have had a disappointing date or it seems like there are no decent guys on the horizon. It is a great way to build yourself back up and also have things put back into perspective. I’m like you. I feel like I do pretty well on my own but do long for connection with that special someone. Has to be special though... I don’t want to settle.
I’m not sure how you are approaching OLD but one of the best advice I received is to not be super picky at the beginning stages. In other words, don’t just swipe right on people who look like 10’s (to you) but start swiping on 7’s. We eliminate people for the stupidest reasons. I don’t like his ears or his teeth are a bit crooked or his moustache is too big, etc... The thing is, we all know people in our lives who we might have swiped left on if we saw them on a dating app but who we love regardless. Like my sister said to me... “Hey...my hubby doesn’t have “great” teeth.” My response, “Yeah, but he’s BIL and I don’t even notice because I love him.“ Exactly!! Like Matthew said in one of his videos... we all have had the experience when we’ve gone out with a 10 and watched them turn into a 6 or a 7 after spending time with them and a 7 who becomes a 10 because of how they are when we are with them. So...with that advice in mind, I’ve been swiping right on 7’s and the result has been crazy. Not that I’ve found the guy yet but I sure have be in contact with a lot more than I would have had I not done that. I’ve had at least one or two dates a week since. Haven’t found my guy yet but I’m not worried. I’m enjoying the experience and any date I go on is a chance to practice my dating and communication skills...including being direct with someone about whether or not you want to see them again...I find that part the hardest, tbh.
Anyway...if you find yourself spiralling a bit, DEFINITELY go back to IC. At the very least, it will give you the opportunity to unpack some of the feelings you’ve been
