If you're only giving it a week until you contact your lawyer well then I doubt anything will change.

I can tell you are still caught up in the storm with her. A divorce doesn't change that, ask Wolfman.

I would focus on detaching, self improvement, and being conscious when you talk to her. Can you honestly say that you've been "doing what works"? You state that she needs help, therapy, and to change her victim mindset. That's your opinion, sure, but you have zero control over her. Why not shift the focus to something you do control?

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I told her im not responsible for her feelings, only she is.
When you said this, I bet she was thinking "F#$& YOU".

These types of thoughts are for you and probably aren't well received when you share them with her.

Why aren't you GAL? Why aren't you focused on actions over words? Your deeds can be of a much greater value.

H 34
W 29
BD 3/12/18
Divorce Busted Spring 19

It is not things that bother us, but the stories we tell ourselves about things.