LH - Duly noted, and I am on point standing back and watching, taking note, pulling back, waiting.
Steve - from your thread,
Originally Posted by Steve
As long as a W is working at the MR then it can survive. But the minute a W gives up on the MR, she is ready to move on (in a lot of cases, not in all obviously), and the MR is in real trouble when the W gives up.
This is so true, I know it. And its happening, and with my letting go - it ALL goes. I have become impatient, and suspicious, probably wrongly assuming that he should know he should be doing more. How do you know when its time to move on or there is still life left in the marriage?
When you can walk away, without regrets, and move on to an awesome life, you know you are ready to move on.
I'll let LH and others that have been through it before answer, but that is the advice I give to LBS that are moving towards pulling the plug.
One thing to remember Bluesea, it is something that R2C likes to say, never stop DBing! Fall back on the base DB principles. Even if you decide to D, you still GAL. You still work on 180s. You still work on being detached. That is what sets you up for an awesome life beyond your sitch, D or R!
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
