Drh, I cant imagine kids getting to the point of not caring anymore though I can understand why and how that occurred. In terms of our Ws, it is sad to see those we loved become so broken, even as it hurts us.
Thank you LH, I know just like a WW, if flip flopped my own feelings on this board. The more that comes to light, the more I want to leave.
W went completely irrational, and attack mode in front of the kids today, right back in to her victim mindset. All over me something minor and self directed yet she took it as an attack. I validated her side while it was still rational. She made no attempt to understand mine. She says "do you know how exhausting it is to be angry at you all the time"? I stopped validating and shouldve kept it up but Im out myself. If she actually tried to get help, went to therapy and stopped her victim mindset maybe she could break free from her cycle. How she cant see the light is beyond me. I told her im not responsible for her feelings, only she is. She agreed but then starting throwing her arms up, her tone got worse. I asked her to keep things peaceful in front of the kids but she kept going. Trying to convince me that I purposely said things to hurt her. I feel bad for her but I gotta get my kids outta this and myself. Giving it about a week until I contact my lawyer.
H37, W37 D4, S2 ILYBNILWY 9/19 BD 9/19 EA discovered 10/19 Currently in limbo, no D or S process initiated
