Living with a WAS/MLC husband...who does not care

[BlueSea]

Alison, I genuinely appreciate your post!
We have talked about it and he is remorseful for that. I want to address this as honestly as I can, and it will offend some. Here is the deal for me: this was sex, I never should have put myself out there to an angry man, especially after one anger filled experience. I am an adult and am responsible for putting myself in a stupid/bad situation. He was CLEARLY wrong to do that. What he did was a display of anger and showing control and dominance - not pleasant to say the least. But, its just sex. It was over in a few minutes. I am sorry to sound so pragmatic - but its not like he cut off a limb. A hot shower and the thought, 'okay, not going to do that again' and 'wow is this guy mad' was as far as I went with it.
My sense of self is not wrapped around being penetrated - it was a transaction with my husband that simply did not go well. Lesson learned.

And that is how it is for me, because this is my experience. I totally leave everyone up to their own opinions about my experience. But, I certainly don't want to turn this into a debate on this topic (its just not in the realm of this board). Every woman has the right to feel how they want about this or their own experience, or what r / sex means to them, or what it means in the context of being married, etc. But, I am not feeling damaged by it in any way.

Bluesea